Archive for February, 2008

February 29, 2008

Scattergories?


I saw this game at Cheryl’s blog introduced by her friend Cheryl. Its a computer game called SCATTERGORIES. It is harder than it looks, really! But I had fun doing it. Copy and paste into your blog and try it!**Use the 1st letter of your name to answer each of the following–they have to be real places, names, things…nothing made up now! You CAN’T use your name for the boy/girl name question.

What is your name……………….. Sharon

4 Letter word……………………….. Sand

Vehicle………………………………….. SVU

City………………………………………. Seattle

Boy Name………………………………. Shane

Girl Name………………………………. Sarah

Alcoholic Drink……………………….. Schnapps

Occupation……………………………… Sailor

Something you wear………………. Shoes

Celebrity………………………………… Sean Combbs (Diddy)

Food………………………………………. Shawarma

Something found in a bathroom..Shampoo

Reason for being late……………….Slept late

Cartoon Character……………………Simbad the Sailor

Something you shout………………. Shush!

Animal…………………………………….. Spider

Body part……………………………….. Shoulder

Word to describe you………………. Sweet

February 28, 2008

Thankful Thursday


I just joined the Thankful Thursday group and I really appreciate this opportunity to be Thankful. There are so many things to be thankful for, but I get so busy I forget to be thankful.
It is a joy to be able to post it here. So here goes!
  • I am thankful for the gift of Jesus Christ
  • I am thankful for life: I had a slight breathing problem a few months ago and I came to really appreciate how precious it is just to be able to BREATHE
  • I am thankful for my family. My mum and my brother spent a week with me in Port Harcourt; it was special. It is a rare privilege to have family and to not only love them, but also to like them
  • Of course I’m thankful for my sweetheart who has been a rock. He constantly goes out of his way for me and I really appreciate that.
  • I’m thankful for my office. I’ve worked with some pretty unpleasant people before so I am always WOWed by how sweet my present colleagues are
  • I am thankful for the gift of expression. To be able to air my views this way means a great deal to me
  • I am thankful for my friends, Buki and Busola. Especially Buki who is ALWAYS there for me

I feel so good; I could go on and on! But I’ll stop here till next week.

February 21, 2008

Constructive Criticism


I got a comment on the post Loving Right about criticism and confrontation as expressions of love. It got me thinking: Is it possible that criticism (if given positively) could actually be a useful tool in building up a person?

That is certainly a thought. However, instead of just writing what I think, I’ve decided to do some research and post it here sometime.

I would really appreciate your feedback. What do you think about criticism in a relationship?

February 14, 2008

Beauty in Love


Last night I and some friends got talking; with valentine in the air, the subject of course was love. On the radio, the presenter was instructing his listeners to tell their girls they were pretty.

One of the guys there asked; “what if she isn’t pretty?”

My natural reaction was one of outrage. Why would a man marry a woman he does not find pretty? Ok. Scrap that. Folks get married for all sorts of reasons. But honestly, how can one truly say he is in love with his wife (or girlfriend) and he does not find her pretty?
It is my personal opinion that when one is in love, beauty transcends the physical. It does not matter how completely battered up that person is, or if she’s fat, pregnant an pimply, she should always be beautiful in his eyes. But then, that is just me.

What do you folks think? Drop a comment.
And Happy Valentine’s Day!

February 12, 2008

Loving Right


How do you show your loved ones that you love them? Saying it is good; it is definitely a start. But if all you do is ‘say’, it begins to wear thin after a while.

So what do you do? Buy him or her things? Things are not bad either, but if you are buying things for your loved one thinking that alone should be sufficient you are going to find yourself with a resentful one instead.

The Bible says that perfect love casts out fear. Sometimes resentment is born out of fear. Virginia Satir understood this. As the pioneer of family therapy in the US, she discovered in her work that a troubled child is often the product of a troubled family. A lot of the time, the family is troubled not from the absence of love but as a result of the inability to express that love. Maybe those families thought ‘things’ should adequately express love. Love however, takes a little more than that.

Love needs to be shown in a person’s attitude. One great way of expressing love is an uncritical attitude. Nothing kills love faster than criticism. There has to be a degree of freedom in any relationship.

Freedom goes hand in glove with love. Virginia Satir mentioned five freedoms:

  • The freedom to see and hear what is here, instead of what should be, was, or will be;
  • The freedom to say what they feel and think, instead of what they should;
  • The freedom to feel what they feel instead of what they ought ;
  • The freedom to ask for what they want, instead of always waiting for permission,
  • The freedom to take risks on their behalf instead of choosing to be only “secure” and not rock the boat.

Go through the list again, slowly this time around and carefully examine your relationships. Answer the following questions:

How do you show your loved ones that you love them?
Do you let them love you back by giving them the freedom to them?

Being protective of the one you love is a very natural bye produce of love the emotion. However, love is more than just the feeling; it is very much the doing also. Giving your loved one the space and freedom to grow in that relationship is definitely a practice of love the verb.

This will be a bit difficult for those who suffer from over protectiveness. But that’s fine; the grace of God is there to make it easier – if you let Him.

Sharon Famonure loves the Lord. She has been in Youth Ministry for several years and has worked as an informal counselor. To read more inspiring articles go to her blog https://thereservoir.wordpress.com

February 7, 2008

I’m Free to Love


I walked in the sandy bogs of fear
Swum the muddy waters of despair
I gave up hope, lost all held dear
Until I said a prayer

You filled me with comforting warmth
Wrapped me in your loving arms
You said to me, ‘Go spread my word
You are now free to love’.

God’s love is all I need
It’s strength when I am weak
It’s life to this dying breed
This love has set me free