Encouragement. Dictionary.Com defines encouragement as:
- The act of encouraging
- The state of being encouraged
- One that encourages
Which leads me to try to discover just what it means to encourage.
- to inspire with courage, spirit, or confidence
- to stimulate by assistance, approval, etc
- to promote, advance, or foster
- To stimulate; spur
This week, starting from Monday, 8th March, 2010, I will begin the Husband Encouragement Challenge. This is because my husband will be arriving Kuala Lumpur from Nigeria tomorrow. He and I have been apart for a little over two months and in that time we have each grown a little different. (I believe everyone grows different each day but if you guys are together, you can grow different together).
Even though I cannot wait to finally have him here, I think somehow, I might have grown a teensy bit used to being by myself. We are newly weds and I know we are still going through the adjustment period – which I heard can be quite harrowing for some couples.
So to make the transition a bit smoother, I have decided on a Godly way to do things. I am not going to sit and wait for my husband to take the initiative in making this marriage a haven. I am not going to place responsibility for my happiness on his shoulders – regardless that they are quite broad.
For this month, at least, I have set myself the challenge of being an encouraging wife. It is my desire to inspire my husband with courage; make him believe that there is nothing he cannot achieve. And really, the Bible does say that we can do ALL things through Christ (Philipians 4:13) even though many of us have a problem believing it.
I will learn my husband’s love languages and strive to stimulate him through assistance and approval. (I heard that a wife’s approval is really important to the husband.) I want him to be the best that he can be. I know that it is only God who can make this possible in anyone, but with support and encouragement, it is easier to be more open to God’s leading. This is my motive for doing the Husband Encouragement Challenge.
The 30 Days Husband Encouragement Challenge was created by Nancy Leigh DeMoss of Revive Our Hearts.com. It is a challenge I once took, before I married my husband, while we were still dating (You can read about that challenge here). In January, courtesy of the Being Mrs V facebook group, I went through the 31 Days of Prayer for Your Husband. We were still living on two different continents then so I felt prayer might be more effective. If you are on facebook, join us this month for the Love Dare!
I will try to chronicle my observations and experiences each day on this blog, but if I’m not able to do it on a daily basis I will still put up a summary once a week. If you would like to try your hands at this challenge, here’s a link to the pdf. The 30 Days Wife Encouragement Challenge is also available from The Anniversary Shop (it’s free), you can send an email to Claudia [at] theanniversaryshop [dot] com for a copy of the pdf.
The Rules of Engagement
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