I was going to work on this post when I remembered that today is ‘Thankful Thursday’ and I have not participated in a long time; so I decided to combine both. I just finished reading Karen Kingsbury’s final book in the Firstborn Series – Forever. I enjoyed every page of it! However, what struck me was the Ten Secrets to a Happy Marriage, which Mrs Baxter left in letters for all her children. Maybe because I’m getting myself spiritually, emotionally and practically ready for my fiance, anyway, I decided to share it here.
- God has you here to serve one another. Love acted out is serving.
- Women need respect and nurturing. Love your wife so she knows you’d lay your life down for her. Continue to date her and admire her. Share a hobby – find something you can do to have fun together.
- Laugh often.
- Be patient. Love crumbles quickly under the weight of unmet expectations.
- Spend more time trying to fix ourself than your spouse.
- Keep short accounts. The Bible says, “Do not let the sun go down while you are angry.” Make it a habit to forgive.
- Determine upfront that divorce is not an option.
- Learn about love languages. Not all people show love or receive it the same way. You want a back rub and your spouse wants a clean kitchen. The love languages are fairly simple: acts of service, time, physical touch, gifts, and words of affirmation. Learn them. Love is better received when it’s in the language that person speaks.
- Words of affirmation are a love language for all men.
- Men are born to be leaders. He cannot lead unless she gives him the confidence to do so. If you love your husband, build him up. Confident men do not seek love outside the home.
Copyright. Karen Kingsbury.
Phew! Stuff to definitely think about. Anyway, I’m thankful:
- For the One who created marriages in the first place; His love and the way he goes out of His way to teach His children – especially the clueless ones (me?);
- For my parents and the way the have consistently put these 10 secrets into action in their own marriage (they had their 29th Wedding Anniversary last month);
- For the man the Lord has given me and how he is willing to work hard for what we have – even though we are not married yet.
- For the opportunity the Lord is using to teach me hospitality in it’s true meaning.
- I am so thankful for life! Just as it is only the living that can praise the Lord, so also it’s only the living that can get married.Lol.
The Lord has been gracious to me in so many ways. I’m back home now and it’s taking me awhile to settle down. My brothers STILL exasperate me (nothing has changed there), but the good loving I get from my family is worth the hassle, and I’m thankful. Are you thankful about anything or do you simply want to read more thankful hearts, click the photo below and go to Iris’s site.