encouragement challenge(s)

Day Twenty-one:

But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be
added to you.
” Matt. 6:33

If we are living in light of eternity, everything we think, do or say is seen from an eternal
perspective. We will someday give an account for our failure to speak words of love and
encouragement. Determine today that your words will be sweet and helpful.

Does your husband have an eternal perspective that allows him to reject materialism
and temporal values? Express your gratefulness for his value system, and praise him
for putting eternal things before riches and other things of this world.

If this is a problem area for him, consider how you might alter your own value system
and live for eternity in front of him, encouraging him to do the same. Only two things will
go into eternity…the Word of God and people. Be sure that you are focusing on the right


Day Twenty-two:

Let your speech always be with grace…” Col. 4:6a

Focus today on how you represent your husband in your home, your church, and your
community. In this challenge to encourage, ask: “If all my family and friends knew about
my husband came from a filter of what I’ve said about him, what would they think of my
husband?” Do you need to change the filter?

Do you talk positively about your husband to others… or do you complain and criticize?
Your speech should reflect 1 Cor. 13 love. Your words should be kind, and should never
“rejoice in iniquity” (v. 6). Refrain from listing your husband’s faults to others. Satan likes
to trick us in this area – be wary of sharing barbed “prayer requests.”

Remember, “Love will cover a multitude of sins” (1 Pet. 4:8b). Present your husband
before others today in a strong, positive manner. Slip in a “good word” for your spouse.
Resist the urge to correct or belittle him in front of others. Some of what you say may
come back to him – and you want your words to be sweet, building him up and never
tearing him down.

Don’t forget: you are always criticizing – or encouraging – before an audience. God hears
your conversations when you are alone with your husband in your own home. May your
speech be always seasoned with grace.

While you are considering how your speech can reflect the grace of the Lord in your
husband’s life, don’t forget that your words can also encourage others. When you share
what God is doing in your life through this “30-Day Encouragement Challenge”, others
will be blessed. Perhaps other wives will be moved to take up this challenge.
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Day Twenty-three:

Let your speech always be with grace…” Col. 4:6a

You’re moving toward the home stretch of your 30-day challenge! Just a reminder of
what you’ve committed:

“You can’t say anything negative about your husband… to your husband…or to anyone
else, about your husband. “Each day, say something that you admire or appreciate
about your husband…to your husband…and to someone else, about your husband!
“In all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works…” Titus 2:7a

Does the “30-Day Encouragement Challenge” seem like hard work? Or is it becoming a
pleasant exercise in genuine Christ-likeness in your home? You are only scratching the
surface of ways to encourage your mate.

Is your husband organized? Is he diligent? Is he persistent? These are all related to a pattern of personal disciplines that are worthy of your praise. Affirm him for one or more
of these traits that you see in him.

Some men have not developed these qualities because they are naturally more
spontaneous. You can praise his spontaneity! Perhaps God has called you alongside to
help him with disciplines he has not yet developed – but this does not include nagging.
You can keep him organized.

Whatever the need, you can be your husband’s cheerleader, encouraging him when he
wants to give up.


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By Nancy Leigh DeMoss
Published by Revive Our Hearts, © 2005.
Permission granted to photocopy in the exact form, including copyright. All other uses
require written permission.



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