I have lived in Port Harcourt, Nigeria for the last one year. That is where I worked in a Law Firm, met my boyfriend, got engaged to him and have been living thus far. ‘Home’, where my parents live and where I grew up, is a small country side village called Gana Ropp, about an hour’s drive from Jos, the capital of Plateau State. It is a really beautiful place, in my opinion, one of the most beautiful I’ve ever experienced. And I’m going back there in three days.
My fiance and I are both heart broken, but we have prayed about it and feel strongly that this is the Lord’s leading. It isn’t going to be easy for any of us; first of all, we have practically been living in each other’s pockets for the past one year. We see each other everyday of the week, every week of the month, every month the past 12 months. I keep asking myself how I’m going to survive without him. There’s a phrase in my language, yoruba (one of the languages of western Nigeria), which describes the sort of relationship we have, it is ‘kori ko soon‘ literally translated to mean ‘Doesn’t see, won’t sleep’. This transition is well. . . a transition.
Secondly, almost any Twenty Something knows that going back to live at home can be difficult; doesn’t matter how great your folks are – like mine. And that’s just what I’m going to do. To give them their due, they got me a little cottage not too far from them but . . . a rose by any other name?
So what would I spend my days doing? Working in another law firm? I’ve decided to go off practicing law for a while – well, no one can quite get out of that. Once your neighbours know you are a Lawyer here, that’s when they suddenly remember a piece of land their great grand father left for their grand father, which his brother stole (complicated, I know). But besides that, here’s what I’ll be doing:
- Running the family guest house. It is actually a Prayer and Retreat Centre; so if you ever find yourself in my neck of the woods and need a quiet, serene, homely place to stay, c’mon over! (I’m already marketing am I not?);
- Earning a Masters Degree. Online. Preferably something which combines the internet and international law. Any suggestions? Presently, all I have are brochures from UK universities and I think since our educational system here in Nigeria was patterned after that in the UK, I need a bit of the US in my education. But I don’t know any Colleges that offer a Masters in anything like that. I would really appreciate all the help here.
- Running my Myriad Blogs. Don’t ask cos they are indeed myriad. And I set up blogs and run them for people. Why would folks want to blog if they can’t do it themselves? I don’t look a gift horse in the mouth. It pays some bills.
Right. So that’s it for my plans for the next few months. Maybe one year. I will see it as a training period. I intend to understudy my mum, learn how to be a good wife and mother. I really do not understand why God wants this separation, but one thing I know is that I trust Him to do what’s good for me. Always.