critical encouragement?

Today’s encouragement challenge mentions criticism. This is a problem a lot of women (and men) have to deal with in their relationships. It is my personal opinion that criticism is like acid upon love. . . it corrodes.

I once asked the question on this blog:

Is it possible that criticism (if given positively) could actually be a useful tool in building up a person?

I got some responses. But what do you think? Is there a place for criticism in a loving relationship? And how can it be administered?

Today’s challenge:

Day Nineteen:

Read this description of a wife’s description of her beloved – Song of Solomon 5:10-16

Criticism leaves scars; but encouragement can bring healing. Remember that today as you focus on your “30-Day Encouragement Challenge.”

Almost nothing is as devastating to a man as the belief that his wife finds him repulsive. Sadly, many women unwisely criticize their husbands’ bodies.

Have you ever considered how wonderfully God designed men and women? No matter how a man looks – by the standards of the world – a loving God designed them all, and they are all “beautiful” in His sight. Encourage your husband today by praising his uniqueness.

As you look over your husband’s body, from the tip of his toes to his bald or bushy head, thank God that your husband is “wonderfully made,” then admire your husband verbally. (Strong arms? Hairy chest? Firm hands? Big feet? Rugged chin? Wide shoulders? Compassionate eyes? Broad smile?)

By Nancy Leigh DeMoss
Published by Revive Our Hearts, © 2005.
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2 thoughts on “critical encouragement?

  1. couple of thoughts that are not original w/ me..but being in a fun healthy vibrant marriage relationship for 29 plus years does give me some perspective on this one….
    Speaking the truth in love is a biblical concept…so there is a place to speak things that the other may not always “enjoy” hearing initially…(in our relationship, it’s usually me on the recieving end ) 🙂 Its’ all a matter of timing, motive, and humility..I do believe we have to earn the right to speak into someone elses life (including our children as they get older)
    And for every time we “speak the truth in love” we better have 10 times as many words of appreciation, affirmation, etc.

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