The Encouragement Challenge is still on and it is becoming more of a challenge. Encouragement is OK. . . nothing wrong with that. But when you have to practice and worse – internalize, it becomes harder. There are quite some aspects I’m having trouble with – not that I do not subscribe to the principles stated in the challenge, it’s just that subscribing is one thing and practicing is another.
I’ll post the challenges for the past two days below and maybe from reading them you might understand where I’m coming from. I will not write about how I did – not now. Maybe sometime later. . .
Encouragement Challenge – Day 11
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” Eph. 5:22
Women who are constantly negative toward their husbands – especially by speaking evil of them to others – show great disrespect. Determine not to do that today (or ever!). This challenge to encourage is closely connected to submission.
Men respond to women who respect them. What do you respect about your husband? Part of that respect includes submission to his authority. Let your husband know how respecting him makes it easier to submit to his leadership. Show your respect in public by listening to him and smiling at him when he speaks. Place your hand in his as you walk together.
If you feel there is nothing to respect, search harder …nearly every man has some core characteristic that can be nurtured and respected. In any case, you must still cultivate a submissive spirit to his position of leadership…”as to the Lord.”
“With all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love.”
Part of the difficulty you may face as you continue in this 30-day challenge to encourage your husband is that you really are struggling to find positive things to praise. Perhaps the problem is not with your husband. Have you checked your own heart?
Sometimes we get disillusioned because of our own unreasonable or unrealistic expectations (Prov. 13:12). It may not be that our mates are doing something wrong; it’s simply that we expect too much in some areas.
Our expectations must be met in God alone, and then we will have the right perspective to ask God for the healing and grace we need to respond to others.
How sad that we give more grace to others than to those in our own homes. Today, try to look at your husband through eyes of grace. Verbally thank your husband for what he is already doing.